I HAVE THE RIGHT...
to live according to my own conscience, not someone else's.
to make my own choices about priorities, and live accordingly.
to make decisions based on my feelings, intuition, values, needs, capabilities or anything I choose to base them on.
to say no to anything that I'm not prepared to do.
to refuse anything that's against my values or feels too dangerous.
to protect myself from threatening behaviour, humiliating attitudes and hurtful words.
not to trust and believe in people and things that don't feel trustworthy or credible.
to say yes to whatever helps my own growth and well-being.
to trust and believe in people and things on whatever grounds I choose to.
to forgive others and myself.
to find and learn to know my inner child.
to feel whatever I feel about my past.
to have all feelings I do, and to express them.
to be disappointed and sad for what I didn't get even though I'd have needed it, or what I got and didn't want to have.
to be angry even at one I love, when (s)he frustrates my needs or violates my rights.
to be fearful, feel unsafe and be careful.
to feel good when someone else feels bad, and vice versa.
to ask for what I feel: closeness, distance, togetherness, privacy, etc.
to take care of myself.
to want, dream of, and long for anything.
have my feelings, needs, values, wants and choices appreciated.
not to assume responsibility and guilt for others' feelings, needs, values, choices or behaviour.
to expect another person to act honestly and justly.
to be different: more healthy, sicker, weaker, stronger, more hung up, less hung up etc. than others.
to be tempted, to fail, to make mistakes and to be imperfect.
to learn, to change and to grow, anytime and all the time.
As I'm not a slave of my rights, I also have the right to give up any right I have, but from now on I'm going to do it out of love -- never out of fear any more.
IT IS MY DUTY:
to respect these as all other people's rights, too.
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